Value for Tuesday of Week 26 in the season of Ripening

Appreciating People

Appreciating people implies valuing, honoring, and admiring them.

  • Appreciation is a wonderful thing: It makes what is excellent in others belong to us as well. [attributed to Voltaire]
  • . . . express your appreciation to your partner. A thank you or a quick kiss can go a long way toward affirming your relationship and commitment to each other. That’s not hard to do even when you’re juggling insane careers and three kids. [attributed to Michael Ian Black]

Beyond understanding is appreciation. When we appreciate people, we value and honor them, in addition to understanding them. This may be accompanied by gratefulness and/or admiration. Appreciation branches out from the intellect into the emotions, and signals the formation of a human bond.

There are many kinds of appreciation: of music, art, science, nature, talent – many things. Each of these generally implies understanding and enjoyment of the subject matter. “Appreciating something (e.g. an event, a person, a behavior, an object) involves noticing and acknowledging its value and meaning and feeling a positive emotional connection to it.” This takes on a special character when we appreciate people. 

The attitude of appreciation is positively associated with life satisfaction, whether it relates to other people or not. Appreciating a sunset, trees, and a starry sky, all are psychologically beneficial. This is related to the awe and wonder we experience in a state of natural piety. We can experience awe, wonder, and a sense of piety about people too. We are part of nature, and we also have qualities that a rock does not have.

“. . . interpersonal appreciation is valuing and appreciating others in one’s life . . .” “Feeling genuinely appreciated lifts people up. At the most basic level, it makes us feel safe, which is what frees us to do our best work. It’s also energizing.” Appreciating and feeling appreciated are essential in romantic partnerships, important in friendships, and useful in workplace relationships. Interpersonal appreciation is an aspect of spirituality.

Appreciation is emotional excellence.

Real

True Narratives

Travel writer Ian Frazier personifies this virtue. The quality of appreciation shines through his writings, listed below.

Appreciation for a region and its people is the key to great travel writing.

Not quite travel writing, here are books by people who adopted new places to live:

Other narratives on the theme of appreciation:

Books illustrating appreciation of an individual:

Technical and Analytical Readings

Photographs

Documentary and Educational Films

Imaginary

Fictional Narratives

"Exactly," said St. George, smiling pleasantly, "I quite understand. A good dragon. Believe me, I do not in the least regret that he is an adversary worthy of my steel, and no feeble specimen of his noxious tribe."  "But he's not a noxious tribe," cried the Boy, distressedly. "Oh dear, oh dear, how stupid men are when they get an idea into their heads! I tell you he's a good dragon, and a friend of mine, and tells me the most beautiful stories you ever heard, all about old times and when he was little. And he's been so kind to mother, and mother'd do anything for him. And father likes him too, though father doesn't hold with art and poetry much, and always falls asleep when the dragon starts talking about style. But the fact is, nobody can help liking him when once they know him. He's so engaging and so trustful, and as simple as a child!" [Kenneth Grahame, “The Reluctant Dragon” (1902).]

Olenka listened to Kukin seriously, in silence. Sometimes tears would rise to her eyes. At last Kukin’s misfortune touched her. She fell in love with him. He was short, gaunt, with a yellow face, and curly hair combed back from his forehead, and a thin tenor voice. His features puckered all up when he spoke. Despair was ever inscribed on his face. And yet he awakened in Olenka a sincere, deep feeling.  She was always loving somebody. She couldn’t get on without loving somebody. She had loved her sick father, who sat the whole time in his armchair in a darkened room, breathing heavily. She had loved her aunt, who came from Brianska once or twice a year to visit them. And before that, when a pupil at the progymnasium, she had loved her French teacher. She was a quiet, kind-hearted, compassionate girl, with a soft gentle way about her. And she made a very healthy, wholesome impression. Looking at her full, rosy cheeks, at her soft white neck with the black mole, and at the good naïve smile that always played on her face when something pleasant was said, the men would think, “Not so bad,” and would smile too; and the lady visitors, in the middle of the conversation, would suddenly grasp her hand and exclaim, “You darling!” in a burst of delight. [Anton Chekhov, “The Darling” (1899).]

Novels illustrating the theme of appreciation:

Poetry

O to have been brought up on bays, lagoons, creeks, or along the coast,  

To continue and be employ'd there all my life,  

The briny and damp smell, the shore, the salt weeds exposed at low water,  

The work of fishermen, the work of the eel-fisher and clam-fisher;  

I come with my clam-rake and spade, I come with my eel-spear,  

Is the tide out? I Join the group of clam-diggers on the flats,  

I laugh and work with them, I joke at my work like a mettlesome young man;  

In winter I take my eel-basket and eel-spear and travel out on foot on the ice—I have a small axe to cut holes in the ice,  

Behold me well-clothed going gayly or returning in the afternoon, my brood of tough boys accompanying me,  

My brood of grown and part-grown boys, who love to be with no one else so well as they love to be with me,  

By day to work with me, and by night to sleep with me.

[Walt Whitman, Leaves of Grass (1891-92), Book XI, “A Song of Joys”]

Other poems:

Books of poems and about poets:

Music: Composers, artists, and major works

Folk music is the common music of a people; it celebrates people in their everyday lives. Great examples include:

Especially compelling folk albums include:

Jazz at Lincoln Center Orchestra with Wynton Marsalis, featuring Paco de Lucia, Vitoria Suite (2010) (95’): this work draws on the orchestra’s experiences in Vitoria, Spain, and offers their musical impression of the people, their culture and their music, from an American jazz perspective. “Marsalis uses the impulse of the blues as a foundation to jointly explore the music of 2 worlds and 2 cultures: The jazz and blues of North merica and the indigenous Basque music and flamenco of Spain 

Puerto Rican composer Ernesto Cordero composed Caribbean Concertos, reflecting an appreciation for Caribbean culture:

  • Concierto Festivo (2003) (approx. 24’) for guitar and string orchestra
  • Ínsula: Suite Concertante (2009) (approx. 16’) for violin and string orchestra
  • Concertino Tropical (1998) (approx. 11’) for violin and string orchestra 

Other works:

Albums:

Music: songs and other short pieces

Visual Arts

Film and Stage

This Is Our Story

A religion of values and Ethics, driven by love and compassion, informed by science and reason.

PART ONE: OUR STORY

First ingredient: Distinctions. What is the core and essence of being human? What is contentment, or kindliness, or Love? What is gentleness, or service, or enthusiasm, or courage? If you follow the links, you see at a glance what these concepts mean.

PART TWO: ANALYSIS

This site would be incomplete without an analytical framework. After you have digested a few of the examples, feel free to explore the ideas behind the model. I would be remiss if I did not give credit to my inspiration for this work: the Human Faith Project of Calvin Chatlos, M.D. His demonstration of a model for Human Faith began my exploration of this subject matter.

A RELIGION OF VALUES

A baby first begins to learn about the world by experiencing it. A room may be warm or cool. The baby learns that distinction. As a toddler, the child may strike her head with a rag doll, and see that it is soft; then strike her head with a wooden block, and see that it is hard. Love is a distinction: she loves me, or she doesn’t love me. This is true of every human value:

justice, humility, wisdom, courage . . . every single one of them.

This site is dedicated to exploring those distinctions. It is based on a model of values that you can read about on the “About” page. However, the best way to learn about what is in here is the same as the baby’s way of learning about the world: open the pages, and see what happens.

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Octavio Ocampo, Forever Always

Jacek Yerka, House over the Waterfall

Norman Rockwell, Carefree Days Ahead

WHAT YOU WILL SEE HERE

When you open tiostest.wpengine.com, you will see a human value identified at the top of the page. The value changes daily. These values are designed to follow the seasons of the year.

You will also see an overview of the value, or subject for the day, and then two columns of materials.

The left-side column presents true narratives, which include biographies, memoirs, histories, documentary films and the like; and also technical and analytical writings.

The right-side columns presents the work of the human imagination: fictional novels and stories, music, visual art, poetry and fictional film.

Each entry is presented to help identify the value. Open some of the links and experience our human story, again. It belongs to us all, and each of us is a part of it.

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