
To be at one with all people and with the physical world is an ideal. One of our three great spiritual pains is that we do not live in that ideal state: we are often separated and alienated.
- This is true of every creature, and it is more true of man than of any other creature. He is not only alone; he also knows that he is alone. Aware of what he is, he asks the question of his aloneness. He asks why he is alone, and how he can triumph over his being alone. [Paul Tillich, The Eternal Now (New York: Charles Scribner’s Sons, 1963), Chapter 1.]
- The Lord God therefore banished him from the garden of Eden . . . [The Bible, Genesis 3:23.]
Felix Adler, who founded Ethical Culture as a young man, identified three spiritual, or existential pains: separation, powerlessness and mortality. As social creatures, humans suffer when they feel alienated, or separated from others.
Real
True Narratives
Separation:
- Svetlana Alexievich, Last Witnesses: An Oral History of the Children of World War II (Random House, 2019): “A chilling, enchanted naturalism fills the book’s pages: Beloved horses are fed to unsuspecting orphans, cats become mute along with their child companions.”
Alienation:
- Ada Calhoun, Why We Can’t Sleep: Women’s New Midlife Crisis (Grove, 2020): “Compared with earlier generations, those of us born between 1965 and 1980 earn less, are in greater debt, are more likely to have children with intellectual disabilities or developmental delays and are expected to be constantly available to both our kids and our jobs.”
Imaginary
Fictional Narratives
Marius and Cosette were in the dark as to one another. They did not address each other, they did not salute each other, they did not know each other; they saw each other; and like stars of heaven which are separated by millions of leagues, they lived by gazing at each other. [Victor Hugo, Les Misérables (1862), Volume IV – Saint-Denis; Book Third – The House in the Rue Plumet, Chapter VI, The Battle Begun.]
Old and eternal Mother Nature warned Jean Valjean in a dim way of the presence of Marius. Jean Valjean shuddered to the very bottom of his soul. Jean Valjean saw nothing, knew nothing, and yet he scanned with obstinate attention, the darkness in which he walked, as though he felt on one side of him something in process of construction, and on the other, something which was crumbling away. Marius, also warned, and, in accordance with the deep law of God, by that same Mother Nature, did all he could to keep out of sight of "the father." Nevertheless, it came to pass that Jean Valjean sometimes espied him. Marius' manners were no longer in the least natural. He exhibited ambiguous prudence and awkward daring. He no longer came quite close to them as formerly. He seated himself at a distance and pretended to be reading; why did he pretend that? Formerly he had come in his old coat, now he wore his new one every day; Jean Valjean was not sure that he did not have his hair curled, his eyes were very queer, he wore gloves; in short, Jean Valjean cordially detested this young man. [Victor Hugo, Les Misérables (1862), Volume IV – Saint-Denis; Book Third – The House in the Rue Plumet, Chapter VII, To One Sadness Oppose a Sadness and a Half.]
Oh! But he was a tight-fisted hand at the grind-stone, Scrooge! a squeezing, wrenching, grasping, scraping, clutching, covetous, old sinner! Hard and sharp as flint, from which no steel had ever struck out generous fire; secret, and self-contained, and solitary as an oyster. The cold within him froze his old features, nipped his pointed nose, shrivelled his cheek, stiffened his gait; made his eyes red, his thin lips blue; and spoke out shrewdly in his grating voice. A frosty rime was on his head, and on his eyebrows, and his wiry chin. He carried his own low temperature always about with him; he iced his office in the dog-days; and didn't thaw it one degree at Christmas. External heat and cold had little influence on Scrooge. No warmth could warm, no wintry weather chill him. No wind that blew was bitterer than he, no falling snow was more intent upon its purpose, no pelting rain less open to entreaty. Foul weather didn't know where to have him. The heaviest rain, and snow, and hail, and sleet, could boast of the advantage over him in only one respect. They often "came down" handsomely, and Scrooge never did. [Charles Dickens, A Christmas Carol (1843), Stave I: Marley’s Ghost.]
Novels and stories:
- Joyce Carol Oates, Sourland: Stories (Ecco/HarperCollins, 2010).
- Thomas Mann, Buddenbrooks (1901), on decadence and the separation between business and life.
- John Wray, Godsend: A Novel (Farrar, Straus & Giroux, 2018) A central character’s “blankness . . . universalizes, in some ways, Aden’s inchoate longing for meaning. Yet it also made me consider Donald Barthelme’s question, in his short story A Shower of Gold’: ‘How can you be alienated without first having been connected?’”
- Benedict Wells, The End of Loneliness: A Novel (Thorndike Press, 2019): “At the heart of the novel are three disparate siblings who are packed off to boarding school after their parents die in a car crash.”
- Caryl Phillips, A View of the Empire at Sunset: A Novel (Farrar, Straus & Giroux, 2018): “Caryl Phillips proudly upholds her standards in this austere, evocative investigation of a life caught ‘somewhere between colored and white.’ It is a novel of acute psychological empathy and understanding.”
- Ben Lerner, The Topeka School: A Novel (Farrar, Straus & Giroux, 2019): “Adam’s faithlessness can no longer be written off as cosmopolitan neurosis. It is instead a symptom of a national crisis of belief, in which structures of understanding crumble and ‘regimes of meaning collapse into the spread.’”
- Roddy Doyle, Life Without Children: Stories (Viking, 2022): “. . . Stories of Life in Lockdown”.
- Marieke Lucas Rijneveld, The Discomfort of Evening: A Novel (Graywolf, 2020): about the loss of a child; “The title refers to the point in the evening when cows begin to low and call for relief, their udders heavy with milk. The story is about painful repletion of another kind, and of solace that never arrives.”
- Bryan Washington, Memorial: A Novel (Riverhead Books, 2020): “a Young Gay Couple Is Divided by Race, Class and Culture”.
- Jhumpa Lahiri, Whereabouts: A Novel (Knopf, 2021): “. . . the pain of the narrator’s isolation feels extremely real . . .”
- Sarah Moss, The Fell: A Novel (Farrar, Straus & Giroux, 2022) “inspired” by the COVID-19 pandemic: “They’re all temporarily stuck at home in the Peak District, in the north of England, eating awkward dinners with relatives on Zoom, avoiding the dishes or grumbling internally over one another’s bathroom etiquette. Kate’s agonized decision to break her mandatory 14-day quarantine and head out for a walk provides the book’s central drama.”
Visual Arts
- Paul Delvaux, Loneliness (1956)
- Salvador Dali, Tristan and Isolde (1944)
- Paul Dalvaux, The Conversation (1944)
- Edward Hopper, Nighthawks (1942)
- Edvard Munch, The Lonely Ones (1935)
- Salvador Dali, The Invisible Man (1932)
- Salvador Dali, Loneliness (1931)
- Rene Magritté, untitled (1926)
- Edvard Munch, Separation (1896)
Music: Composers, artists, and major works
Ralph Vaughan Williams, Symphony No. 7 ("Sinfonia Antarctica") (1952) (approx. 39-45') captures the bitter cold and barrenness of the most hostile and remote region on Earth. “Ralph Vaughan Williams’ wife, Ursula, wrote that 'The idea of great, white landscapes, ice floes, the whales and penguins, bitter winds and Nature’s bleak serenity as a background to man’s endeavor captured RVW’s imagination.' At the same time, she recounted her husband’s horror as he discovered the amateurish nature of the expedition. 'He despised heroism that risked lives unnecessarily and such things as allowing five to travel on rations for four filled him with fury.'” Barbirolli in 1953, Boult in 1954, Boult in 1969 ***, Previn in 1969, Haitink in 1984, Handley in 1990, Andrew Davis in 1996, and Manze in 2019 conducted top performances.
Other compositions:
- Rag Bageshri (Bageshree): this classical Hindustani raag for late evening expresses the emotion of a woman awaiting her lover’s return. Usually, it is performed around midnight. Linked performances are by Nikhil Banerjee in 1971, Nikhil Banerjee in 1975, a more fully developed performance by Nikhil Banerjee, Shahid Parvez Khan, Vilayat Khan, Shivkumar Sharma, Kishori Amonkar, Rashid Khan, Ravi Shankar, K. Shridhar & K. Shivkumar, Jasraj, and Ashwini Bhide Deshpande.
- Raga Ramkali is an early morning raag, often pictured as a forlorn young man sitting next to a young woman, who has rejected him. “Bhairav strides forward with soulful, straighforward steps creating an energy that is one contemplation, devotion and longing - like a traveller who has endured an arduous journey but will move ahead, spurred by the yearning for his lover.” Linked performances are by Nikhil Banerjee & Kanai Dutta in 1970, Bhimsen Joshi in 1969, Amjad Ali Khan, Sharafat Hussain Khan, and Ravi Shankar.
- Raga Alhaiva Bilawal is a Hindustani classical morning raag about separation: “Which way has he gone? Hey friend, please tell me. He embraced me and crept away. He took my soul and then vanished down the lane.” Linked performances are by Budhaditya Mukherjee, Kishori Amonkar, Apoorva Gokhale, Ravi Shankar, Shahid Parvez Khan, and Ulhas Kashalkar.
- Karl-Birger Blomdahl, I Speglarnas Sal (In the Hall of Mirrors) (1951-52) (approx. 35’): “ . . . based on nine sonnets from Erik Lindegren’s collection, The Man without a Way (1942), an anxiety-loaded suite of pictures of the possibilities of life and death, perhaps easiest to read against the background of the madness of the second World War.” [Quotation is from Gören Bergendal, from the notes for this album.]
- Bernd Alois Zimmermann, Dialoge - Concerto for Two Pianos and Large Orchestra (1960, rev. 1965) (approx. 21’): the dialogue strongly suggests wariness.
- Isang Yun, String Quartet No. 4 (1988) (approx. 22’): The division between South and North Korea was a centerpiece of the personal relationship that led to this work.
- Yun, Concertino for Accordion and String Quartet (1983) (approx. 15-17’): The accordion struggles to find a measure of harmony with the string instruments.
- Kurt Weill, Concerto for Violin and Wind Orchestra, Op. 12 (1924) (approx. 30’): the odd combination of instruments, and Weill’s quirkiness characterize this work.
- Arne Nordheim, Solar Plexus, for voice, saxophone, piano/organ, recitation & percussion (2002) (approx. 10’), evokes a sense of being disjointed, as does The Return of the Snark, for trombone & tape (1987) (approx. 15’). Of the latter piece, Nordheim says: “During this co-operation (with trombonist Per Brevig), we uncovered some possibilities which seemed very difficult, even impossible, to put into practice. Then I brought all the fragmentary material which we had recovered during the working of The Hunting of the Snark to an electronic studio.”
- Daniel Asia, String Quartet No. 1 (1975) (approx. 13’), String Quartet No. 2 (1985) (approx. 27’), and String Quartet No. 3 (2007) (approx. 26’), all evoke a sense of being unsettled and out of place, as much contemporary “classical” music does.
- Jonathan Leshnoff, Symphony No. 3 (2015) (approx. 35’), was inspired by letters home during World War I.
- Scott Wollschleger, “Hollow City” (approx. 16’)
- Bent Sørensen, L'isola della città (The Island in the City) (2016) (approx. 28’), evokes being alone in an urban setting.
- Arturs Maskats, Accordion Concerto, “What the Wind Told Over the Sea” (2021) (approx. 19’), is “a tapestry of longing and regret, suffused with images of the sea . . .”
Some black metal groups express modern alienation with a high level of artistry. Tragically, some of them, or their members, carried their alienation into criminality and hatred.
- Darkthrone, with its extensive playlist, including its “Hate Them” album (2003) (39’);
- Bathory, with its playlist, including its “Under the Sign of the Black Mark” album (1987) (36’);
- Mayhem, with its playlist, including its “De Mysteriis Dom Sathanas” album (1994) (46’);
- Burzum, with its playlist, including its “Filosofem” album (1996) (64’);
- Immortal, with its playlist, including its “Pure Holocaust” album (1992) (34’);
- Emperor, with its playlist, including its “Anthems to the Welkin at Dusk” album (1997) (60’);
- Old Man’s Child, with its playlist, including its “Revelation 666 – The Curse of Damnation” (2000) (40’) album.
Other albums:
- Jaap Blonk, “Irrelevant Comments” (2017) (50’): “As he delves further into electronics, Netherlands vocal improviser and experimental artists Jaap Blonk finds an ever-increasing array of approaches to modify his voice and set it into alien and astounding environments, here in 16 tracks of musique concrete, sound poetry, pulse based electronics, soundscapes, and inexplicable hybrids of the same.”
- Joseph Tawadros, “The Hour of Separation” (2009) (78’): the haunting quality of the music evokes a sense of separation, consistent with the album and track titles. Tawadros explains: “We used our ears, we looked at each other, we learned about each other’s playing and we inspired each other, and that’s why you can’t tell who’s leading who. There’s a magical balance which you really can’t analyze.”
- Jennifer Koh, “Alone Together” (2022) (97’): “Isolated By Pandemic, Violinist Jennifer Koh Nurtured A New Community Online”
- Carolyn Sampson & Kristian Bezuidenhout, “Trennung: Songs of Separation” (2022) (73’), is “a considerable sonic achievement; a dramatically well-realised concept; and, last but not least, a total mood.”
- Mostar Sevdah Reunion, “Lady Sings the Balkan Blues” (2022) (54’): the songs “speak about loneliness, a girl that ‘lonely lies down and lonely gets up’, about growing old while waiting for the loved one, about ‘the first one that caught her eye’, unwanted arranged marriage, wishes and dreams… about deep love desire and longing.”
- Voces8, “Winter” (2016) (65’) is an album of heart-tugging choral works, sung by an an eight-member a capella chorus, evoking the desolation of a cold winter.
Poetry
- Edgar Allan Poe, “Alone”
- Pablo Neruda, “Don’t Go Far Off”
- Charles Bukowski, “Alone With Everybody”
- Edwin Arlington Robinson, “Richard Cory”
- Vikram Seth, “All You Who Sleep Tonight”
- Robert Frost, “Desert Places”
- Pablo Neruda, “A song of despair” (analysis)
- Pablo Neruda, “Saddest Poem”
- Edgar Lee Masters, “Charles Webster”
- Edgar Lee Masters, “Doc Hill”
- Faiz Ahmed Faiz, “Loneliness”
- Faiz Ahmed Faiz, “The Incarceration of Loneliness”
- James Joyce, “I Hear an Army Charging Upon the Land”
Film and Stage
- Persona, an exploration of a relationship between two women, testing which, if either, is the caregiver; their spiritual pain only intensifies when they seemingly trade identities
- L’Avventura, a film that finds “a place in our imagination – a melancholy moral desert,” “exploring states of feeling and breakdowns in human connection”
- Breathless (1961), about alientation in “the tough underbelly of modern metropolitan life.”
- Les Cousins (1959), a French wave film pervaded by “a deep cyncism that is expressed in absolute hedonism and a maudlin wish for death”
- The Crying Game, about how other people may not be who we think they are, and how we all are trapped, somewhat, in who we really are
- In a Lonely Place: the filmmaker’s “haunting work of stark confessionalism” explores alienation in several dimensions through one character
- Little Vera: an alienated teenager
- Klute: stalked by one of her customers, a prostitute “is forced to reconsider her detached urban life”
- Memories of Underdevelopment: a would-be Cuban dissident is blocked from acting on any of his ideas
- Midnight Cowboy: American decadence, a la 1960s New York chic
- Rebel Without a Cause, a 1950s view of alienated youth in the United States
- Red Desert (Il Deserto Rosso), about a young woman suffering from depression
- River’s Edge, a study of contemporary alienation
- The Mother and the Whore (La Maman et la Putain), about three lost souls in a romantic triangle in France during the sexual revolution of the 1960s
- Accattone (The Producer) (The Scrounger): a seemingly emotionless film about the spiritually lost
- Leap Year (Ano Bisiesto): the lovers’ “sexual synchronicity may derive from very different places and be headed toward very different goals”
Music: songs and other short pieces
- Simon and Garfunkel, “Bleecker Street”
- Simon and Garfunkel, “Sounds of Silence”
- Miloš Karadaglić, “Sound of Silence”
- Disturbed, “The Sound of Silence”
- Acker Bilk, “Stranger on the Shore”
- Schubert, “Der Alpenjäger” (The Alpine Huntsman), D. 524: a young man thinks of his “distant beloved / Who remains at home”.
- Mary-Chapin Carpenter, “Come On, Come On”
- Franz Schubert (composer), “Der Jüngling am Bache” (The Youth by the Brook), D. 30 (1812) (lyrics)
- Franz Schubert (composer), “Leiden der Trennung” (The Sorrow of Separation), D. 509 (1816) (lyrics)
- Franz Schubert (composer), “An die Entfernte” (To the Distant Beloved), D. 765 (1822) (lyrics)
- Franz Joseph Haydn, “A Pastoral Song”, Hob. XXVIa:27 (lyrics)